My story: Why you should seek fertility help sooner rather than later

Written by Anonymous
10 Sep

I stopped taking the pill two months before I married my husband.

This article was first published by Fairfax in July 2017.

I stopped taking the pill two months before I married my husband. We’d always talked about having a family and agreed that we wanted to start trying sooner rather than later.

I was 27 and my husband was 31.

Like many women, I assumed the minute I stopped taking the pill I’d fall pregnant. Initially ‘trying’ was fun, both mentally and in practice, and waiting for my period was filled with anticipation – not to mention a whole lot of analysis of every ache and pain.

Days before I was due on, I’d convince myself that my ‘due on’ headaches were worse than normal. I’d tell myself I was feeling a little nauseous and any smell that turned up my nose was another sure sign.

I lost count of the money I spent on pregnancy tests, only to see that repetitive negative line. As the months rolled into two years, I felt deflated and depressed. I felt my body was failing me in the one area it was supposed to succeed.

It was after another negative test that we decided to seek help. The disappointment was becoming too much to bear, and it was clear there was a problem. We needed a resolution and we needed it soon.

As is the norm with all fertility clinics, we initially underwent a series of tests to determine the reason I couldn’t conceive.

Tube blockages, endometriosis and poor sperm count and quality were ruled out. We were categorised as ‘unexplained’ infertility – things just weren’t happening on their own.

We took the doctor’s initial advice and tried insemination. Two rounds of this proved unsuccessful, so we reviewed our plans and proceeded to IVF.

Our first attempt resulted in five viable eggs. One was inseminated and the other four frozen. I was convinced that this would be ‘the one’, and left the clinic with a bounce in my step,

Sadly, it was not to be. This was followed by further heartbreak when the remaining four embryos didn’t survive the thaw. We were back to square one.

Fortunately, the next cycle was successful. On the first attempt I conceived my son, 18 months after starting fertility treatment. I was 31 years old and my husband was 35.

Five years later, my second son was conceived from one of our remaining frozen eggs.

In hindsight, we did leave things too long before we sought help. We were convinced that it would happen, so we should let nature take its course. And we almost felt like we might be viewed as desperate or paranoid if we sought help too soon.

We never considered that time might not be on our side.

Yet, the heartache we went through for so long could have been lessened if we had of sought help sooner. Rather than just worrying unknowingly that something was wrong, we could have got a definitive answer.

We could have educated ourselves earlier on our options and spoken to professionals for advice. In the first instance, it would have relieved our stress. But, more relevantly, it may well have seen our first son born sooner than he was.

Dr David Molloy is the clinical director for Queensland Fertility Group. He says that education about fertility is paramount, and could encourage couples to seek help sooner.

“Fertility issues are very common and about one in eight couples will experience problems getting pregnant in a timely manner,” he says.

“The most common problems are age related infertility and endometriosis. But the newer fertility issues starting to come through relate to ovulation problems, particularly in younger patients because of the obesity epidemic.”

Despite this newer issue in younger age groups, the average age of pregnancy is still 34. For those aged 35 and over, Dr Molloy recommends not waiting too long before seeking help.

“If you’re under 35 you should try for 12 months before seeking help,’ he says. “If you’re over 35, we recommend that you try for six months and then seek advice. Fundamentally, you have 12 chances a year to conceive, but between the ages of 35 and 39 there’s a reduced chance of conceiving, and an even further reduction between 39 to 42. After 42 it’s very hard to conceive, though it’s not impossible.”

Dr Molloy says that getting help sooner rather than later has many benefits.

Initial investigations and testing can provide both answers and reassurance, without committing to expensive or complex treatments. In fact, Dr Molloy notes it could give couples the confidence to keep trying naturally.

However, if like one in 10 couples something substantial is found, fertility treatment can commence sooner. This will save couples experiencing ongoing angst.

“There’s no harm in visiting a fertility specialist, asking lots of questions and undertaking a series of basic tests to determine life supply of eggs and sperm quality,” says Dr Molloy.

 

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Further to his interview on Channel 9’s 60 minutes programme, Dr Ben Kroon of Queensland Fertility Group discusses the topic of post mortem sperm retrieval.

Thankfully for the vast majority of people, post mortem sperm retrieval will never become a reality.

It is an extremely complex and challenging area of reproductive medicine, involving retrieval of sperm after a man’s death so that it can be used by his surviving partner.

While new assisted reproductive technologies are allowing more people than ever to fall pregnant and start the family they desire, the law, at times, does not keep pace with these developments.

In Australia, the law does not specifically address the issue of retrieval and use of sperm after a man’s death. So, while a partner may be sure she knows what her partner ‘would have wanted’, without supporting legal documents explicitly stating those wishes, the question of retrieval and use of sperm is not clear.

In most cases, an urgent court order is needed to retrieve sperm. This is a problem because while the judge is coming to a decision, every hour that the sperm lies in the body after death decreases the chance of finding live sperm.

While 24 hours is the accepted time period for successful retrieval, there may still be a small chance up to 36 hours after death.  However, while retrieval might be medically successful, the court may never permit a woman to use the sperm.

I co-authored a paper, published in the Australian and New Zealand Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, in which we surveyed 28 IVF clinics across Australasia to test attitudes towards posthumous sperm retrieval and use.

It appears that directors of IVF units are generally supportive of the practice, given the right circumstances, but that the lack of clear laws makes the response to requests for sperm retrieval very difficult.

Myself, and the papers co-authors, believe that ‘clear, accessible and consistent law in this area would benefit everyone involved, including the medical, legal and societal stakeholders’.

It is not only the law that needs to catch up. In the same way that people discuss organ donation, I believe that couples should discuss post mortem sperm use.

Men should consider and discuss with their partners whether they would want to father a child after their death, bearing in mind that they could not raise the child, and that the child could conceivably be raised by another man.

I need to be clear that I am not suggesting that more people should have their sperm collected and used after their death.

Personally, I wouldn’t want my sperm to be retrieved and used if I died suddenly, and my wife knows this. But, if couples don’t have the discussion and document their wishes, it is seldom clear what one would have wanted if one dies.

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In 2007 a local Melbourne paediatrician approached me curious about whether girls conceived through In-Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) and other Assisted Reproductive Treatments (ART) enter puberty earlier than those conceived spontaneously. With the first babies born through IVF now reaching their mid-30s, this query was my early motivation and the catalyst to initiate a study on the effects of IVF and ART on the health and wellbeing of children conceived through these technologies.

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This project was the largest of its kind ever attempted, worldwide.

We found that children conceived by IVF grew into healthy, normal adults when compared to children conceived spontaneously.

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We have a responsibility to continue this research and gather further clinical review in long term follow up of those conceived through IVF and other ART. Further research will evaluate their health status and follow up to determine if there are any important lifelong medical or other legacies of IVF.

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At Queensland Fertility Group Toowoomba we decided to assess the reality of these changes. In order to do this we conducted a retrospective study of 1587 women who had undergone IVF between 1998 and 2013 at our clinic in Toowoomba (based in the Darling Downs, west of Brisbane). We know that during this time there has been considerable social change, and we were interested to see how our patients may correspondingly have changed during this 15 year period.

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